Have Mercy on Yourself

Santo J. Costa discusses the importance of self-forgiveness and mercy

We rarely treat others like we treat ourselves. Generally, if someone tells us that he made a mistake, we thank him and reassure him of his forgiveness. We are rarely so kind to ourselves. When we make a mistake we usually filet ourselves, showing no mercy. In Don Miguel Ruiz’s book The Four Agreements, he notes that in a society of justice, transgressions are only punished once. I don’t know about you, but I often fail to live according to this insight. When I make a mistake, I am likely to still filet myself even ten years later! To get over this self-abusive impulse, the most important thing you can do is to convince yourself that you are deserving of love. We learn to treat ourselves as deserving, moreover, when we lead meaningful lives of  service to others.
Sandy Costa’s professional experience includes over 30 years in executive and senior operating management positions within the pharmaceutical, health care and life sciences industries. In addition to his legal practice, Sandy’s experience includes President, Chief Operating Officer and Vice Chairman of Quintiles Transnational Corp. where during his tenure he had responsibility for all operating divisions and worldwide business development. Other executive level experience includes Senior Vice President-Administration, General Counsel and Director, Glaxo Inc.; and U.S. Area Counsel for Merrell Dow Pharmaceuticals.
Sandy is a nationally recognized speaker on leadership, as well as legal and policy issues affecting the pharmaceutical industry.